WHEN THE BLACK DOG BITES
Some years ago the following chain Email hit my Inbox. Its heading was “ATTITUDE”.
Ho, hum – another shallow communication that, once read, will immediately be deleted and forgotten. So I thought.
No, not this one. It had a profound effect on me. I immediately passed it on to friends and family and read it several times before saving it for further reference. Every so often I’ve re-read it and it still impacts me. Here it is:
Michael is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I’d be twins!"
He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Michael was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.
Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Michael and asked him, "I don't get it! You can't be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?"
Michael replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood. I choose to be in a good mood.
“Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it.
“Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.”
"Yeah, right, it's not that easy," I protested.
"Yes, it is," Michael said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It's your choice how you live life."
I reflected on what Michael said. Soon thereafter, I left the company to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.
Several years later, I heard that Michael was involved in a serious accident, falling some 60 feet from a communications tower.
After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Michael was released from the hospital with rods placed in his back.
I saw Michael about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied. "If I were any better, I'd be twins. Wanna see my scars?"
I declined to see his wounds, but I did ask him what had gone through his mind as the accident took place.
"The first thing that went through my mind was the well-being of my soon to be born daughter," Michael replied. "Then, as I lay on the ground, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or I could choose to die. I chose to live."
"Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I asked.
Michael continued, "The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the ER and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read "He's a dead man”. I knew I needed to take action."
"What did you do?" I asked.
"Well there was a big burly nurse shouting questions at me," said Michael. “She asked if I was allergic to anything.” "Yes,” I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, "Gravity." Over their laughter, I told them, "I’m choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead."
Michael lived, thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully. Attitude, after all, is everything.
Therefore don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
After all, today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.
A few years ago I was struggling with some heavy issues at work and, frankly, I was down in the dumps and feeling miserable. Then one of my work colleagues asked how I was. I’d re-read this story the night before and spontaneously replied, “If I were any better, I’d be twins!”
Apart from the surprised reaction from my work mate, I was astonished to find myself immediately feeling more positive and ‘up’ simply by saying those words!
Now, whenever I remember, I try to make this part of my problem-solving repertoire when the black dog bites.
Why not give it a try? You’ve got nothing to lose but your blues and frustrations.